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I always come to this place to spill my thoughts. No one may read it but it feels good to get it off my chest.

I find myself in the most incredible place in my life while equally being in one of the most difficult mentally. Not that it’s unmanageable nor is there a cloud hanging over my head. Nothing like that. It is that place in my life where I choose to create my own untraveled path to create my happy existence on this planet. Sometimes taking the road less traveled ends up with a staggering feeling similar to loneliness, only, I am not lonely. My heart is full of love and support of those people whom I hold dear, which there are very few, as my full heart is guarded more and more these days. Choosing this lifestyle of creating something that is mine, something that can continue to flourish for years to come and create stability for myself and the hypothetical family I may have one day. Not only does it come from my desire to be financially stable, it burns from my desire to experience the world as fully as I possibly can. I come from a family where traveling and vacations were not a thing. We did not have those kind of memories. I yearn for that. I crave a life where I can explore the world as God created it in all of its majesty. I want to be submersed with new culture and adventures, constantly. I want the book I’m writing to have depth behind it.. not just coming from someone who has experienced more heartbreak than one should by 28 years old.

Oh heartbreak.. why must you be so cruel and ever lingering? I could write and write and write about this subject.. but why give it continuous life? All I will say is, I am careful when choosing my relationships and if something does not work out after giving it a chance, I decide for myself to let something go that is not right for me… & by let something go I mean indulge in a weekend of Sex and the City marathons, eat Ben & Jerry’s ice-cream and pizza in bed while crying at nodding in agreement with everything Carrie Bradshaw is saying about men and their ways. But not this one… it’s been 9 years since we met and I’m still as crazy about him as I was the moment we met. Timing has never been in our favor, but as the years go on, neither of us has fully moved on and conversations have taken place between us as recent as today… but now, geography isn’t in our favor and I am terrified that time is going to continue to get away from us if something drastic doesn’t happen.. but what? This is not some fucking romance novel where he’s going to magically appear at my door stop with flowers in his hand in the rain while I dramatically fling the door open and jump into his arms & we live happily ever after. WRONG. It is real life and I ca not imagine feeling so intensely for someone for 9 years to only have it constantly be on my mind and nothing ever coming of it. I can not imagine that he not my guy.. I can just feel it in my bones. I do not want to fall in love with the wrong person and end up like my parents. That hurts too much. Despite the fact that I have not a single functioning relationship model in my family, I still believe in that all consuming love that two people can have for one another. I still believe that two people can fall in love, build a life founded on the word of God, have a family, create happy memories together, support each other, lift each other up, respect one another, remain faithful to one another and spend forever in love. That is what I want. So what if it’s him? What if it’s not? Craving something so delightfully magnificent, wanting to experience that kind of unconditional love so bad that it shatters my soul a bit every time I think of it. It is a beautiful heartbreak… you know?

So I refer back to my original thought of creating my own path. They say it is lonely when you are at the top and while I am not at the top, I surely am in a different bracket than the rest of them. I stand tall and proud in every decision that I have made to get me here. While I am remaining slightly vague with all of the aforementioned, just remember this; While I have been busy working in diligent silence, something beautifully me has been created. No public announcements need to be made, just know you will be seeing be soon. You meaning all of you who chose to leave me and not love & support me unconditionally. All of you who I supported and was there for and the second you had a chance to tear me down, give your two cents, and passive aggressively insult me. You did not break me then and you will not break me now. While some of the wounds are still wide open, the pain only fuels my fire so thank you all for being part of come up.

Your fuel has been greatly appreciated.

Love hard. Be kind. Chase your dreams relentlessly. Make shit happen. Be true to you.

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Why is it that the words just flow so freely when you’re upset?

Okay, I’m not upset… I am just 25 years old and enduring much change. Change, meaning life is progressing, chapters are changing and many lessons are being learned. But I guess that’s just called life, huh?

Lessons Learned Recently by Twenty-Something Me

1. You can’t make people see or feel the world the way you do. Period.

2. You should never waste your time or breath trying to justify your decisions, actions or opinions to anyone. Just surround yourself with like-minded people and you’ll never have to do any of the aforementioned. Simple as that.

3. Sometimes the people closest to you will bring out the worst parts of you. Why? Because they love you of course, and they know exactly how to push your hardest buttons. Is it right? Absolutely not, but we’re all guilty of it. Actively work on LOVING & SUPPORTING those people closest to you instead of doing the exact opposite.

4. ACTION SPEAKS LOUDER THAN WORDS.

5. When people are ready to change, they will. You can’t force someone to be someone they’re not. Change either comes willingly or not at all.

6.You are not destined to be an unhappy, jealous, angry, lazy, overweight, outcast, with no money, no life, no friends, no support system, lonely waste of human being. THERE IS HOPE FOR ANYONE. I watch miracles happen every day. GET YOUR ASS UP, STOP FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELF AND DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.

7. Here’s the age old question, “OMG, you’re single? Why?” Well here is why; I have learned in my past relationships what I want and what I don’t want. A certain Georgia boy from my past reminded me that gentlemen still do exist. They’re rare, but they are there. I will not ever ask a guy out or make the first move, I like when he takes control. A guy who knows what he wants out of life and actually possesses the motivation go for it is quite attractive. But more than any of those things, a guy with a unique mind is what attracts me. [See: Brandon Boyd… HA! …but seriously.] When I do find someone interesting & tall enough ,  9 times out of 10 they lack that certain conversation skill and excel in video game skill. Boom. #2013problems

8. Work on yourself first. Physically, spiritually, mentally. Any emotion you are feeling inside will pour out of your face, thing thoughts lingering in your mind will inevitably prosper, and what you consume will reflect upon your body. Love yourself, respect everyone around you, give more, expect less, stop gossiping about irrelevant life facts, thank God every day for being given another day to live and you’ll live a life you are truly proud of, not one you just have to fake your way through.

That was definitely long, but there is something rather therapeutic about feeling the keys clicking underneath my fingertips and at last clicking the Publish Post button.

 Thank you for listening to my rant, cyber lovelies.

 Until next time..

rants from a twenty-something ep.10

Hello there, cyber world. 

Oh, how I have missed you.

My days seem to be consumed with more fresh air & human interaction, rather than sitting in a stifling, non-ventilated office space staring at a computer screen. I like it better this way. I feel like me.

The past 6 months have been entirely consumed with detoxing my entire life as I knew it. My lifestyle, my friends, ex-boyfriends, my wardrobe, my refrigerator…you name it, I detoxed it. You go through changes in life where you flip the page, and you enter the next chapter of life, but this wasn’t one of those changes. It was more of a burn-that-book-write-a-new-one-and-never-look-back-ever-ever-again kind of change. You think you have life all figured out and it finds a clever, sneaky little way of knocking you on your ass and reminding you of how you never had a clue to begin with. But, what does one do when real life perplexities hit?

Keep breathing and keep on going.

So in the reconstruction of my new life I realized a few things.

Who I am is not defined by the material things in my life. Life lessons and experience make me who I am. You follow the signs, the word and the path that God creates for you and this beautiful life unravels before your eyes. I am a person with a healthy body in which all of the components work in perfect synchronization to allow me to breathe, think, and exist every day. For that reason, I wake up every morning full of gratitude, thankful for every tiny blessing. Never let those tiny blessings go unnoticed, for those are the ones that really make you life rich.

The strength we possess as human beings is absolutely, incredibly mind blowing. There is considerable strength in our words, minds and bodies, which is the greater part of our being. Those, also, are things that make me who I am. Strength in those components can change the world. How am I going to change my world? By only speaking positive declarations, finding the good in every life occurrence and  by living as selflessly as possible every single day. Why? Because why would I want to live any other way?

I’m spiritually, mentally and physically rid of my old life and I for the first time and exactly who I want to be with no regards to anyone, but me. I am free.

I challenge you all to reevaluate your life, get rid of the excess and free yourself, because you are free the exact moment that you wish to be.

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“I am no bird; and no net ensnares me; I am a free human being with an independent will.”
breathe in..exhale…

Have a beautiful weekend & until next time y’all,

Steph♥Andrea

 

rants from a twenty-something ep.5

…It is that moment when you realize that what you though what was “best” for you, ends up becoming a slight downfall…

Tomorrow is a new day for new opportunities & new successes. God shows me things in the most mysterious ways and I can not begin to explain how he makes my life better, every single day. In addition to Stephanie Andrea  Events, I am now a Health and Wellness coach, aiding in moderate to extreme weight loss. I am so blessed to have the time and energy to put so many things on my plate at once. I have no children, no real commitments, so why not dabble in everything that makes me happy? I can’t wait to build this new business! Fitness has always been a big part of my life, but I want to spread the word of a healthy lifestyle with as many people as I possibly can! I can not wait to see where this new, incredible journey leads me!  

On a lighter note..

I finally got my hands on all seasons of True Blood, so after a few more posts I now have a date with my blu-ray & bed. Ahh, my favorite part of the night. Haa. 🙂

Nighty night, y’all!