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I always come to this place to spill my thoughts. No one may read it but it feels good to get it off my chest.

I find myself in the most incredible place in my life while equally being in one of the most difficult mentally. Not that it’s unmanageable nor is there a cloud hanging over my head. Nothing like that. It is that place in my life where I choose to create my own untraveled path to create my happy existence on this planet. Sometimes taking the road less traveled ends up with a staggering feeling similar to loneliness, only, I am not lonely. My heart is full of love and support of those people whom I hold dear, which there are very few, as my full heart is guarded more and more these days. Choosing this lifestyle of creating something that is mine, something that can continue to flourish for years to come and create stability for myself and the hypothetical family I may have one day. Not only does it come from my desire to be financially stable, it burns from my desire to experience the world as fully as I possibly can. I come from a family where traveling and vacations were not a thing. We did not have those kind of memories. I yearn for that. I crave a life where I can explore the world as God created it in all of its majesty. I want to be submersed with new culture and adventures, constantly. I want the book I’m writing to have depth behind it.. not just coming from someone who has experienced more heartbreak than one should by 28 years old.

Oh heartbreak.. why must you be so cruel and ever lingering? I could write and write and write about this subject.. but why give it continuous life? All I will say is, I am careful when choosing my relationships and if something does not work out after giving it a chance, I decide for myself to let something go that is not right for me… & by let something go I mean indulge in a weekend of Sex and the City marathons, eat Ben & Jerry’s ice-cream and pizza in bed while crying at nodding in agreement with everything Carrie Bradshaw is saying about men and their ways. But not this one… it’s been 9 years since we met and I’m still as crazy about him as I was the moment we met. Timing has never been in our favor, but as the years go on, neither of us has fully moved on and conversations have taken place between us as recent as today… but now, geography isn’t in our favor and I am terrified that time is going to continue to get away from us if something drastic doesn’t happen.. but what? This is not some fucking romance novel where he’s going to magically appear at my door stop with flowers in his hand in the rain while I dramatically fling the door open and jump into his arms & we live happily ever after. WRONG. It is real life and I ca not imagine feeling so intensely for someone for 9 years to only have it constantly be on my mind and nothing ever coming of it. I can not imagine that he not my guy.. I can just feel it in my bones. I do not want to fall in love with the wrong person and end up like my parents. That hurts too much. Despite the fact that I have not a single functioning relationship model in my family, I still believe in that all consuming love that two people can have for one another. I still believe that two people can fall in love, build a life founded on the word of God, have a family, create happy memories together, support each other, lift each other up, respect one another, remain faithful to one another and spend forever in love. That is what I want. So what if it’s him? What if it’s not? Craving something so delightfully magnificent, wanting to experience that kind of unconditional love so bad that it shatters my soul a bit every time I think of it. It is a beautiful heartbreak… you know?

So I refer back to my original thought of creating my own path. They say it is lonely when you are at the top and while I am not at the top, I surely am in a different bracket than the rest of them. I stand tall and proud in every decision that I have made to get me here. While I am remaining slightly vague with all of the aforementioned, just remember this; While I have been busy working in diligent silence, something beautifully me has been created. No public announcements need to be made, just know you will be seeing be soon. You meaning all of you who chose to leave me and not love & support me unconditionally. All of you who I supported and was there for and the second you had a chance to tear me down, give your two cents, and passive aggressively insult me. You did not break me then and you will not break me now. While some of the wounds are still wide open, the pain only fuels my fire so thank you all for being part of come up.

Your fuel has been greatly appreciated.

Love hard. Be kind. Chase your dreams relentlessly. Make shit happen. Be true to you.

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Why is it that the words just flow so freely when you’re upset?

Okay, I’m not upset… I am just 25 years old and enduring much change. Change, meaning life is progressing, chapters are changing and many lessons are being learned. But I guess that’s just called life, huh?

Lessons Learned Recently by Twenty-Something Me

1. You can’t make people see or feel the world the way you do. Period.

2. You should never waste your time or breath trying to justify your decisions, actions or opinions to anyone. Just surround yourself with like-minded people and you’ll never have to do any of the aforementioned. Simple as that.

3. Sometimes the people closest to you will bring out the worst parts of you. Why? Because they love you of course, and they know exactly how to push your hardest buttons. Is it right? Absolutely not, but we’re all guilty of it. Actively work on LOVING & SUPPORTING those people closest to you instead of doing the exact opposite.

4. ACTION SPEAKS LOUDER THAN WORDS.

5. When people are ready to change, they will. You can’t force someone to be someone they’re not. Change either comes willingly or not at all.

6.You are not destined to be an unhappy, jealous, angry, lazy, overweight, outcast, with no money, no life, no friends, no support system, lonely waste of human being. THERE IS HOPE FOR ANYONE. I watch miracles happen every day. GET YOUR ASS UP, STOP FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELF AND DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.

7. Here’s the age old question, “OMG, you’re single? Why?” Well here is why; I have learned in my past relationships what I want and what I don’t want. A certain Georgia boy from my past reminded me that gentlemen still do exist. They’re rare, but they are there. I will not ever ask a guy out or make the first move, I like when he takes control. A guy who knows what he wants out of life and actually possesses the motivation go for it is quite attractive. But more than any of those things, a guy with a unique mind is what attracts me. [See: Brandon Boyd… HA! …but seriously.] When I do find someone interesting & tall enough ,  9 times out of 10 they lack that certain conversation skill and excel in video game skill. Boom. #2013problems

8. Work on yourself first. Physically, spiritually, mentally. Any emotion you are feeling inside will pour out of your face, thing thoughts lingering in your mind will inevitably prosper, and what you consume will reflect upon your body. Love yourself, respect everyone around you, give more, expect less, stop gossiping about irrelevant life facts, thank God every day for being given another day to live and you’ll live a life you are truly proud of, not one you just have to fake your way through.

That was definitely long, but there is something rather therapeutic about feeling the keys clicking underneath my fingertips and at last clicking the Publish Post button.

 Thank you for listening to my rant, cyber lovelies.

 Until next time..

rants from a twenty-something ep. 3

[Cue the completely vague and  random thoughts of my morning.]

It is that moment when you realize that you do way more for people than they do for you. Then, what happens when you stop for just a second? They get pissed off, act entirely selfish, lose sight of what the real issue is & create issues that could of been solved, pronto. Or, they like to sweep the real issues, pertaining to them, under the rug, never bring them up again and then spout arrogant words (when convenient) as an attempt to reprimand the other.  Why can’t both sides be seen? Oh, because people are too busy pointing fingers instead of trying to solve the problem.

Very vague generalization, I know.

So then what happens when you come across this situation? Stop doing and keep moving on. Let things pan out as they will.

As for those people who selectively keep you around, discard them. We live in a world with billions of people so why would you keep someone around who doesn’t 100% want you there?

I’ll be 24 in 3 days and I can’t imagine life any different right now. There are so many lessons I’ve learned up to this point and I’m so excited to exhibit each and every one.

I believe that you should always fight for what you love, but when you’re fighting a brick wall, I think it’s time to back off for a while. Haa, don’t you think?

[Random thoughts done.]

Now, I will press play on Dirty Dancing, sip my coffee and enjoy one of my last days of being 23… in bed. 🙂

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Words have an enormously compelling way of depicting all of my deepest thoughts, whether minimal or life changing. I’ve found that in everything I’ve done, I have been most successful in the tasks in which I excrete indignation. So here it goes. I’m attempting to compile my notions onto this vast, infinite medium called cyberspace in hopes that I can make a difference to someone, somewhere.

I do not enjoy long walks on the beach, although sun bathing in the warm sand is more my thing. Brandon Boyd is the only man to ever steal my heart and anything accompanied with a glass of red wine is good in my book. I yearn for originality in the beings I associate myself with and have a strong desire to emit optimism into the world. To witness passion being excreted from a single soul is absolutely mesmerizing. The momentary highs and brink affairs never fall short of a fabulous time. I stand tall and independent on my own two stilettos, but do get by with a little help from my friends. Despite the many trials and tribulations life has thrown my way, I have managed to maintain my dignity and now am stronger than ever.

I am Stephanie Andrea… Hello World.